True Friend.

"No person is your friend who demands your silence or denies your right to grow."

--Alice Walker.

I'm the kind of friend that will support your dreams, tell you to go for it, & lose my voice cheering you on. The kind that won't hesitate to put you in your place if I feel like you're wrong, but won't hesitate to whoop someone's ass if they cross the line with you. The kind who will be there to answer the phone if you call me at 3am to tell me you're stranded on Las Vegas Boulevard. I'm the kind that will be real with you & tell you that you're looking kinda wide in that dress because I don't want you going out looking jacked up. The kind that will stay on the phone with you for hours just to hear you cry about your weak ass ex-boyfriend then bring a shitload of junk food to your house so you can feel better about it. Thats the kind of friend I am & thats what I expect from my friends..nothing more, nothing less.

Sugar coating is off limits because growing up, no one ever did that for me. My family is full of assholes & I'm thankful for that. Life isn't made of rainbows & unicorns & I'll be the first to tell you that. Never had my ass kissed & never kissed ass to make friends. Being sensitive isn't gonna cut it. I'm not a bitch, I just don't want to lie to you. I never apologize for my words, because I've already thought about what I was going to say before I said it. If you can't speak your mind around me, that's your fault not mine. If you like to fish for compliments, this is not the pond to throw your line in. Compliments are a privilege. I don't give them to those not deserving because no one should need compliments to stay motivated. Be your own hype man. I'm gonna say my peace regardless of what you may think about it because I feel like we don't need to agree on every single thing to get along. I'd rather have it that way so we can learn from eachother's points of view. Hear me out & I'll do the same. Our differences are what makes us closer. The fact that we share common interests is just a bonus. I'm just as open to criticism from my homies as they are to mine. If anything I'd rather have you tell me straight up than have you put on this happy face & lie to me. Just be honest with me. I'm a big girl. I can take it.

I've been called an asshole, a bitch, a jerk, a dick..but never a bad friend. There's a method to my madness. I don't say the things I say or do the things I do because I'm a hater or because I don't care or because I don't like you. I do it for the exact opposite reasons. I'll tell you whats really real because I don't want you to get hurt in the end. Sure, my words may sting at first but you'll thank me in the end. Believe it or not, I am a nice & friendly person. I just don't like feeding people bullshit. Time is too precious & life is too harsh to play the nice girl role. Sometimes you gotta be the bitch to get respect. I admire people like that. I'll be the first one to give praise when its due & be your biggest cheerleader if the situation presents itself. I give encouragement if you need a little boost of confidence but I'm not your babysitter. Sorry, that's just not me.

Sometimes, when shit happens in life that makes us upset or sad or mad or disappointed..all we really need is a friend to sit next to us. Even in total silence, thats speaks volumes. You don't have to tell me whats wrong & vice versa..just being there is enough. And don't jump on my back because I didn't tell you something. That doesn't mean I'm mad at you or we're not friends anymore. There's just some things I want to keep to myself. Plain & simple. So don't hit me up asking if I'm mad at you just because I don't want to vent to you. You don't need to know everything going on in my life for us to be friends. My business is still MY BUSINESS & i'll tell who I choose. I expect you to know that the same goes for yourself. No hard feelings.

I'm a pretty patient person when it comes to my friends. There isn't a lot you can do to me that makes me want to cut you off. I'm usually pretty good at letting shit go because there's so many othere things I'd rather waste my energy on than a stupid & pointless argument. I say my apologies, forgive & get the fuck over it. Friends don't suffocate eachother. Its a friendship not a marriage...and truth be told, even marriages shouldn't be suffocating. So if I cut you out of my life, that's probably the reason why. I'm sorry but if there's ONE THING i can't deal with is a NEEDY friend. Ohh lawwwddd!! I got enough shit in my life I gotta worry about to be taking on your issues. I'll be there for you, give you the best advice I can but if you keep going through the same bullshit every single day..don't you think you should make a few changes?? I mean, seriously...what the fuck do you want me to do about it?? I'm here to be your friend, not your savior. Its your life, you have to do everything necessary to keep it afloat. I'm just here to tell you to keep it going & to never give up because I got your back! The friend I'm not? If you've cried over & over to me about how broke you are or your boyfriend won't stop cheating on you, I'm not the one that's gonna spare your feelings & tell you that your boyfriend loves you & he'll change his ways. I'll be the one to tell you to get a damn job or leave his dumbass! If you're too needy, I'm sorry I gotta let you go because the negativity just gets to be too much to handle. After some time, it starts weighing down on me & the next thing I know, I'm over here losing focus on my own goals because I'm too caught up with you & your baggage. I'm sorry but no thanks. I don't have the time or energy to be dealing with people like that. How do you expect me to help you if you can't even help yourself? C'MON SON!!

Its 2011, people. I'm tired of people talking about how much drama they got in their lives but don't do a damn thing to fix it. I'm tired of people saying they pray to God everyday for things to change but yet you're just chillen on your couch flipping channels and doing absolutely NOTHING productive. Shit don't make no damn sense. In life, the cards you're dealt are all a test of your ability to deal with them. When life hands you lemons, you paint that shit gold! Change your attitude. Change your thought process and the way you handle things then maybe your luck will change up a little bit. If you're steady complaining about every single thing going on in your life & questioning why all this fucked up shit happens to you, its probably because you deserve it. Don't be bitter. Putting the blame on everyone else around you isn't gonna help you either. You are grown. Suck it up. All that time you're spending nagging, complaining, & talking shit..someone else out there is making moves & getting ahead of you in this rat race we call LIFE while you're still at square one. Thats not the business. Your luck just might run out on you. Just don't say I didn't tell you so.

I feel very blessed to be surrounded by the company I keep. Each & every personality is unique & different & they have all (in their own little way) made me the person I am now. Without them, I am nothing & I'm not afraid to admit that. They inspire me to be a better ME & for that, I will always feel gratitude. At the end of the day, when I have nothing at all, I'm glad I have them on my team. That's what's really real.

This is the kind of friend I am and that's the kind of friend I'm hoping you are to me. You may not like it but its ok with me.